How To Achieve The True Key To Success

February 23rd, 2016

When you’re trying everything and you start feeling tired of life, you tend to ask yourself, am I successful? Chances are; you will say NO. It is never enough for you. You want to have more and more each day, and you tire yourself looking for success that seems so distant from you.

Success may differ from person to person, it maybe tangible success to others, but to some, a simple life with the people they love is enough to be called successful. Greed, Envy, and Selfishness clouds our mind with so much material things in life, and it becomes a bondage that is hard to remove from our system.

You need a balance life to be successful. You need to have a career that will provide you with the money to pay the bills and feed your family. You need have strength to overcome the failures that you will encounter along the way, as you journey to your life, whether single or married.

Also, you need to feed your spirit with the truth of what God has bestowed upon you in order to improve your spiritual life. You don’t need too much money, just enough to let you live one day at a time and keep you away from debt. You also don’t need too much money to extend your help to the less fortunate people; you can help in many different ways. It is your will that determines if you want to help or not.

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It is never always about the money

Wealth and fame is a wrong definition of success. Even if you have both in life but inside you feel empty, then it is never the wealth and fame that you are really after. The true missing portion in your life that you are always after is “Joy”. Try to ask yourself right now if you are happy. Imagine if you can still live the same lifestyle that you have until you are 55 years old, does it scare you to think about it?

Nobody will give you the same salary that you are earning right now when you retire. So, are you preparing to lose everything during your retirement?

How about the people that surrounds you? The true people that you love, whom you establish your life with. Sometimes they are the people you neglect to spend time with. Chasing after money wherein after earning, you spend with stuff that you think can make you happy (temporarily).

True success is measured in the quality of relationship we invest over our lifetime. Spending the money to the right people, with the right purpose, this is what matters most. Let me share to you the words spoken by a Dr Paul Kalinithi; a Neurosurgeon who dies at age 37.

“Most ambitions are either achieved or abandoned; either way, they belong to the past. The future, instead of the ladder toward the goals of life, flattens out into a perpetual present. Money, status, all the vanities the preacher of Ecclesiastes described, hold so little interest: a chasing after wind, indeed.”

The one that holds in the end is the relationship we build, specially with our family. Money and fame, they mean nothing in the end. Even if you pass it to your children, you’re no longer there to monitor them how they are spending it. What holds in the end is your faith and relationship.

Failing does not mean you need to stop; it is just the beginning of a fresh start.

Most successful people failed during their lifetime. They’ve reached the lowest point of their life and were miserable at some point. But they choose to stand up and face the reality of the failure that they’ve experience. They learn their lesson and decide that they try again but this time not committing the same mistake that they did when they first do it.

Learning through our failure is the key. Learning from other people’s failure is also beneficial for us. It makes decision making easier and less risky.

But maybe you miss something? Try to look back where and how you fail. There maybe opportunities for you to use for your advantage. It doesn’t mean that when you fail, you have to forget about it. Let it be a reference point for future decisions that you will make.

Failure can be your alarm before committing the mistake. When you are focused on your goal, you tend to miss the things that happen along the way. Sometimes you divert and get out of focused. If you didn’t notice it early, you will fail again.

But past failures can be triggers that will remind you that if you continue doing things that you are doing now, chances are you will fail. It helps you focus on your goal and succeed in the end.

You also need to be a cheerful giver.

A lot of people I know measure success base on what they get. What about what they give? It is God’s will that you prosper, but not for you alone. Your success has a purpose and it is not for you only. You give to a cause that matters to you. But don’t announce it. Whenever you donate or give to others, do not announce it. Remember these words:

“Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven. So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.” Matt 6:1-4

It is not how big you give, but what is important is how willingly you will give. Whatever it is that you willingly give will be measured unto you.

These are principles that you can apply to your life. It is for you to decide if you want to use it or not. Attaining wealth and all the splendor of our career means nothing, if you are bonded in sickness, misery, hopelessness, and without relationship to God.

The life we enjoyed living are the first 20 years of our life, all the rest are just monotonous and tiring. You will never find true rest, as Dr Paul Kalanithi says; it is a chasing after a wind.

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Learn To Push Out Of Your Comfort Zone

February 9th, 2016

When you are stuck in your comfort zone for too long, chances are, you’re not willing to try other options that maybe a better way of life. You miss out the opportunities that could have been your success if only you try it.

Imagine yourself in the end relishing that you could have done better if only you have the guts to move out of your comfort zone. Environment usually affects our decision and sometimes it is too late to realize that our opportunity has passed us by. Life begins outside of your comfort zone. You have to build the courage to try to step out of your comfort zone to achieve it. Here’s what were going to do.

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You must learn to accept challenges

We are programmed to stay inside our comfort zone. It is a better feeling for us to remain on what we usually do rather than try other things. We always put a protective barrier around ourselves, our career, and our family that sometimes prevents us from growing. We believe that what we have now is far better than what others are suggesting. It makes our life boring and monotonous that we became slave to our routines.

Setting goals can help us achieve our plans in life. It makes us visualize what we want to achieve. Whenever we set goals, we try our best to achieve it. Along the process, you force yourself to slowly set free from your comfort zone and try baby steps of challenges that you can overcome and succeed until you meet the goal you’ve set.

Believe in yourself; never think that you will fail. Always think that there is a way for every obstacle that you will face. Motivation is very important if you want to succeed. It pushes you to go further and find options along the way.

 

Have courage to try new things in life

Learn from your adventures. As seafarers, we frequently travel; this gives us advantage in learning different culture. You just didn’t pay attention to details of how other people or nationality live their lives and you are missing out the chances from learning from them.

Learn from other people’s wisdom by asking them and knowing more about them.
If you have a group or network of friends that you meet a lot, talk with them and learn from their experiences. This makes you mature, and builds your confidence in your future plans of trying other things.

Volunteerism is another way of building confidence. It helps you develop those baby steps you need, and prepares you on the bigger steps that you plan to take in the future.
Attend meetings and conferences; meet other people that you can share common interest. Exploring different horizons in your career makes you smarter and as you immerse yourself to your career and life, you realize the growth that can build confidence in whatever you want to try in your life.

Our desire to improve our life, better health, dreams to pursue, and creating more joy makes us decide to take the risk and move out of our comfort zone. Whatever would trigger the courage we need, it pushes us further and makes us stronger. If you can identify that trigger, nourish it and make it work with you so that you can move forward and start whatever it is that you’re planning to do.

 

You can have a better life outside your comfort zone

Staying in what you are now is not bad. But don’t you think that there are other chances that you can have a better life out of your comfort zone. You will never know it if you will not try it. Taking the chance is the only way that you will find out. If you don’t venture now, you will gain nothing. The experience and the success are like a closed box. If you don’t try to open it, you will never know what is inside.

Risk surrounds us every day, the only thing we can do is minimize the risk. Besides, the experience of trying other things in our life is enough reward, knowing that we can only achieve it if we try.

Strengths and weaknesses are developing as we feed ourselves with experiences that help us mature. We discover different options that applies in our lives and we realize that the experiences we endure speeds up our learning.

Fear is the common problem that makes us hesitant in moving out of our comfort zone. Identify those fears that you have and find solutions to minimize or completely remove it from your life. After all, we are created not to fear but to overcome fear.

Re-framing your fear helps you mitigate fear in your life. By creating a comfort zone in your life that slowly shines out of you helps you build courage and fight fear. Praying is a good start of building strength. Your faith can build a sanctuary in your life that resonates to your personality.

Every decision in life has risk, whether you are in your comfort zone of not. The only solution is never surrender or never give-up on the chance of making it better. Your comfort zone is holding you back, so you must learn to step out of it.

Challenge your comfort zone. Realize that you are capable of doing more if you step out of your comfort zone. Improve your communication skills, interact with others. This helps you learn more that what you have already learned so far. Fight fear and never hold back. Life is full of risk, you may already be in a risky situation right now, so it is better to manage risk rather than be a slave to it.

 

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How To Always Make A Good Impression

January 26th, 2016

Instantly you got noticed once you get introduced. Then after that what’s next?

This is the common problem that is always happening to us. We never get the attention we need because we didn’t impress them of our action.

If we understood that a good impression can go long way in any relationship and career, then we may think to change our appearance so that are prospect hiring manager will hire us. In every action you do, just make sure that it will result in a positive way.

But that’s not all. We have a lot more to share to you. So, be patient in reading further.

 

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Extend an Extra Effort by Building Friendship

Think like you are courting a girl whenever you are applying for a job. What are you wearing, is it appropriate? Are you making a continuous conversation? Do you think you have chance or is there another meeting after the interview? This makes you aware of what you should do to make a good impression to them.

How about at work, are your fellow crews noticing you? Is the impression you are making makes you even better than the other? Make sure you respect every person’s opinion. Conversations other than work are a good therapy on-board the ship. But the problem is when you think of yourself as always the right person and ever so knowing.

That doesn’t make you look good, it only shows how limited your life is. Keep in mind, you don’t know everything, there is always somebody who knows more than you do so better start keeping friends by respecting their opinion and vision in life.

If in case the situation needs you to demonstrate your skills in order to solve it, and then do so. If it requires your knowledge, share it. Don’t be greedy by keeping it to yourself. Share it to others and let other people modify it to make it beneficial to them. The seed of knowledge came from you and the fruits are the people you’ve help that used your knowledge and make it grow.

Whenever someone asks you a question, don’t avoid it. Instead, answer it with full confidence and correctly. For sure, the impression you will leave is something worth remembering.

 

How About Your Appearance

What are you wearing? Is it relevant to the occasion? Is it timely? Is it correct? Never make a mistake of wearing improper clothes. Whether it is for work, social gatherings, or casual events, make sure that is according to what the occasion or situation needs.

Although it may not be so important to others, but your shoe sometimes shows how hygienic you are. If you’re wearing nice clothes but your shoes are dirty, isn’t it inappropriate to look at. What do you think the person looking at you would think? Get the habit of polishing your shoes. It helps in giving a better impression about you.

When you are working in the office, and every so often you sign a lot of documents, it really matters to have a nice pen. It doesn’t necessarily mean that it should be an expensive pen. It should be a nice looking and a good quality pen that is according to your budget.

You will notice that when you are using your nice looking pen, the other person in the meeting would comment about it and compliment about the pen and the conversation starts there. It’s sort of an ice breaker in many occasions that I’ve experience.

 

Show Your Colleagues That You Are Serious With Your Work

If you are new in the company or just joined the ship, the first thing that you must always remember doing is to come early to work. There are numerous instances that a new guy at work, whenever he or she comes late during the first day, makes a very bad impression about his or her personality. Aside from that, they already speculate that maybe in work he or she is not also good and inefficient.

Remember to be respectful in every aspect of your work. Never provoke a person to get angry. When you shake hands, use a firm grip and initiate contact. When you speak to your fellow crew or employee, make sure you give them your attention. These small gestures are memorable and will always be attached to your personality wherever you go.

When you are comfortable with your work and duties, take the initiative in doing a job without someone telling it to you. If it is a repetitive task, don’t wait for instruction. Do it right away. Your boss will notice it and will appreciate your initiative.

 

What’s Next?

Now that you know pointers to make a good impression, what are you planning to do next? Well, you have to implement it.

It is easy and it is rewarding to know that you are doing it. Just remember to build friendship as much as possible. You don’t need enemies in your work place. You need to build rapport and interact with your fellow crew or employee.

Take care how you look. Dress properly and according to how the situation asks of it. Always let them know that you are a serious person when it comes to work, so that they will also take you seriously.

There you have it. It only needs one simple gesture on your part. Kindly comment below, we love to hear from you and to know other suggestions that you’d like to add to what you have read.

The Easy Way On Finding The Place To Get A Job That Saves You Time And Money

January 12th, 2016

You need to know the right ideas in order to make your job hunting easier, but how?

 

We all want to find a job in less time and less effort with minimum money to spend. Then reality struck and you suddenly realize that it’s not that easy.

 

What if there is a shortcut in doing it? Are there really shortcuts?

 

Maybe yes or maybe no. Finding the right company is impossible. There is no single solution to answer all your multiple needs. But there are companies that will fit your requirements.

 

We’ll try to flesh out the concepts on how recruiting happens and how to adapt to different situation.

 

Don’t Rely On Others

No man is an island. Same thing applies to job hunting. Many people are trying their best to get connected and find the easiest way to get hired.

 

It is a tough competition out there and Nepotism is everywhere. Aside from the growing number of people who are discriminating other applicants, there are still people who hire others fairly.

 

But it is not always apples and lemons. Some people will use your eagerness to find a job to their advantage. They will make promises and even exploit you by asking money or service in exchange for a chance to work on the ship.

 

You’ll get your chance but you’re not going to get it earlier, at least not yet.

 

At the end of the day it will be up to you to find a way.

 

Try to size up the situation. If the job was meant for you, everything will be at the right place at the right time.

 

But who should you believe?

Your family is the first people that you can trust. They can help you in making decisions or even endorse you to people that they know.

 

Your relatives are also your option. Try to get connected with them. If you have a good communication with them, there’s a good chance they’ll help you. But if you haven’t spoken to them in decades and suddenly you pop up just to ask a favor, and then be prepared of what they might say.

 

Your friends are also there to help. But sometimes they don’t take you seriously. So try to choose among your friends who are more likely to be of help to you.

 

Do not expect person you see from the streets whom you know are seafarers, to help you. They might suspect you’re a stalker.

 

Or approach a seafarer from an office and ask if they can pretend as your relative just to get an application. They may say you are swindling them.

 

When applying online don’t be pushy. Not all websites are made for job application. Try to check their about page before you send them your message.

 

Also, don’t expect too much from people that you just met. Remember that when you ask their favor, you are taking your chances and maybe it will not work as you planned.

 

Update your resume. Even if you’ve done the entire proper meet up with people, you must have a backup plan. You must consider trying to apply on your own. There are people who did that, why not you?

 

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What You Need To Know About Your Network

December 29th, 2015

A strong network can build your credibility, establish your career, and promote your service.

 

When we talk about networks, the first thing that runs in our minds are those multi level marketing business. But network has different meaning in the concept that you’re reading here.

 

When you have a friend, and your friend knows a person that is also his friend, which happens to be the friend of your cousin that you later on found out is the nephew of the manager of the company you are working with; this can be described as an elaborate network or connection, isn’t it?

 

If you simplify it, any person you know that knows another person that connects back to you can be considered your network. Any person you don’t know, that can be connected back to you through your existing network are your potential connections.

 

It is the same principle that Linkedin.com and Facebook is using in social media. For instance, in order for you to be connected to someone’s network in LinkedIn, someone must endorse you. Wherein, the same situation applies to real world.

 

There are plenty possibilities in your network. Your chances of getting introduced to your next career are increased, if you have a wide network of valuable people that surrounds you.

 

If you are using your network for parties and dating, you better start asking yourself, if they can help you in-case you need help with your job?

 

When Do You Start Building?

 

You have to start building your network as soon as possible.

 

Everyone has someone to connect with, so why not you?

 

1. Look at your connection in Facebook or LinkedIn page and observe how they are doing it. Follow their style. Check how they invite you. Always learn from others.

 

2. Build your network slowly. Build it with credibility in mind. It’s time to get serious and choose people in your network that makes sense, and adds value to your life.

 

That doesn’t mean you have to delete or block them out. You just want to minimize the distractions in your life. This time it is about you and your future, so plan it well.

 

3. Start with your friends network. Ask for an introduction. Contact them through LinkedIn, Facebook, or Email. Be polite and formal. Treat every conversation as if it’s your first and last chance to make a good impression.

 

4. Sometimes being yourself does not help. Be somebody that they want you to be. To your friends maybe you are not so serious, but to your professional network you are serious enough to be heard.

 

5. If professional people don’t give attention to what you are talking about, there is something wrong. It’s either you said it the wrong way, or what you said is just not interesting.

 

6. Check your phone book. Ask for an introduction from a friend to someone that can be a part of your network. You’ll find that there are lots of opportunities for you waiting to uncover.

 

What’s Next?

 

You can build your professional network as quickly as you think. You just have to be patient not to push them to hard. If they don’t answer back quickly, give them time.

 

Maybe they’re just busy or they haven’t checked your message yet. Don’t be a stalker. It might give a wrong impression. Remember: Patience is a Virtue.

 

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