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How to Motivate Yourself to Stay at a Job and Overcome the Urge to Leave.

Tuesday, May 10th, 2016

Are you tired at work? You want to quit your job right? But something is holding you back. It’s normal, your human and you have doubts.

What can you do to stop yourself from quitting?

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1. Start with small goals that will lead to achieving big goals.

You’ve set goals but you are tired of achieving it because nothing is changing. Maybe you’ve set a super big goal that takes a lot of time to achieve. Start with small steps, prime your feeling of pride in achieving small goals. This prepares you on a much bigger goal that you are about to face.

Don’t give up. Stay focused and remember that you will reap the benefits later as long as you stay focused in your goal.

2. Try something new.

Work is boring to you now. It is no longer challenging. You want to feel the challenge. Try something new, you can think of many ways to do something new.

Take a masteral degree while you’re working. Upgrade your credentials by taking short courses that are related or even not related to your work.

Take difficult assignments that are time pressured. It gives you that adrenalin rush whenever you work on deadlines. Just remember, once you’ve taken that challenge, make sure you’ll complete it. It is part of your baby step in priming your emotions in achieving small jobs that leads to big milestone in your job.

3. Look for a critique.

It is not a usual practice but it is one way of knowing which area of your job you need to improve. Look for a person in your workplace that you admire his or her work, and ask them to critique your performance with your job. Be open minded on whatever they will say.

Don’t hold a grudge on them if they told you the truth. This helps in improving yourself in connection to your work and your relationship to your peers. It also adds something new in your job that you consider boring.

4. Every time you achieve a milestone in your career, test it in order to improve it more.

It is not about being perfectionist, but rather about having a reality check on what areas you need to change or modify. As you stay longer in your job, it becomes monotonous. You start to develop skills that are near to perfection. But have you ask yourself if it is already an obsolete skill or technique.

Validate your suspicion by trying new methods in completing jobs that maybe easier and less time consuming. There’s nothing wrong in trying new stuffs that you know could improve your performance in your job and make your life easier to manage.

After all, it is always fun to try new things and find out the outcome by yourself, and then brag it to your colleague after you have good results.

5. Include an element of fun in your job.

This should always be in your list of daily activities in your workplace. It doesn’t necessarily mean party, but rather small talks or laughs that sort of an ice breaker in your daily routine at work.

Short breaks and visiting your colleagues can reduce the aching back pains that you are feeling whenever you are doing continues work. Off course you know your priorities; it is a must that you complete your job for the day. But it is also nice if you can couple it with fun to make your daily boring life more lively and enjoyable.

6. Be sociable.

Somehow you need to reward yourself, don’t forget that you have a social life after your work. Attend party (that is according to what is acceptable to your wife, if you know what I mean), but keep in mind your limitations.

Whenever there are events or big gatherings in your profession, find a way to squeeze it in your schedule. It makes you meet different people and discuss common ideas that can help you improve your job or make it more interesting.

Just make sure that you get their contact details afterward. It can help broaden your network as well.

7. Always be patient.

Patience is a virtue, and you can apply it in different ways in your life. Whether you are eager get promoted, wanted a new house, buy a new car, or travel around the world, being patient keeps you out of trouble.

It can even save you from making a wrong decision or jumping into drastic conclusion.

Back to you.

Whenever you have that urge of quitting your job, look back into this list and figure out a decision if you really want to quit. Identify what triggers your decision to quit and discuss it with the people you trust.

Ask their opinion especially those that will be affected once you quit your job (they’re your family that is directly dependent on your salary). Sometimes it takes only positive attitudes to put you back up on your feet and continue your job.

How about you? Do you want to share more on what you read? Write it in the comment below. Ask questions if you want to know.

 

Should you quit your job? Did you quit yet? Why should you stay?

Tuesday, April 19th, 2016

Every day at work is probably the worst day of your life. A boring, tiring, and stressful life that constantly draining your energy the whole day.

Think of yourself as a sponge, full of water, carrying the water at a certain point, and then left alone drained and dry after a day’s work. Then suddenly you tell yourself. You’ll quit your job. The question is, are you really ready to quit your job.

You’ve heard success stories of people that became successful after quitting; but the question again is; do you have the same conviction and perseverance as they have and willing to risk it all?

If not, I suggest you keep your job. Why? Here’s the reason why.

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What makes you hate your job?

Normally it is about your boss. You heard me right. Your boss is often the trigger to your problem and your frustration. It doesn’t matter if he or she the CEO, the Manager, the Captain, or the Officer on the ship, but still they are the trigger to your problems and frustrations. The deciding factor whether you like your job or not are your bosses.

Another trigger to your daily frustration is the salary. A lot can be attributed to this reason

  • You think that you are underpaid.
  • Your talent is not recognized (they pay you less than your expertise)
  • You feel cheated because they are using you and not paying you rightfully.

In the first place you signed the contract so it means you agreed to the terms that it contains including the amount of your salary. But still you like to complain. It is the easiest way to release your frustration.

One other factor is your working environment. You like the job because you like the people you are working with. Whenever there are new people who arrived and changed the previous group of people you’ve worked with, you feel like you don’t want to work with the new ones. You don’t even want to try. You missed your previous group right?

What makes you like your job?

The big reason why other people love their job, is that they’ve been with the company for so long (10 or more years). It is like the 2nd house for them. This makes you think twice whether you like to leave or not. Even if the pay is low, it is often the time and effort you invested that wants you to keep your job.

Admit it or not, you are just content with the money you are earning right now. You are happy with the lifestyle that you have and you consider this as your comfort zone. You can choose to have more but you’ve rather not. It is about being contented of what you have, and this my friend doesn’t actually makes you like your job, you just like the feeling that your job is rewarding you.

Another reason that people are not jumping from one job to another, is because they are not in debt. Debt is the biggest problem you need to solve first. If you have debt you will become a slave to the one that you owe money to.

The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is slave to the lender. (Proverbs 22:7)

Debt can make your life miserable. On the other hand, people who don’t have debt have a bit more happiness to stretch. They feel freer and enjoy the benefits that life gives them. They may not have too much money, but what they have makes them happy. After all, money is not always the source of happiness in this world.

Do not wear yourself out to get rich; do not trust your own cleverness. Cast but a glance at riches, and they are gone, for they will surely sprout wings and fly off to the sky like an eagle. (Proverbs 23:4-5).

Those who trust in their riches will fall, but the righteous will thrive like a green leaf. (Proverbs 11:28)

Instead of tiring yourself to be rich, better plan on how to make your life happier and simpler. It will amaze you to find joy in simple things in life. As you grow old, the once busy and bountiful life you have will start to become simpler every day. Then you’ll realize that what you are reading right now makes sense in your life.

How can you keep your job?

Before you even think of leaving your job, you better think that almost everybody everyday are thinking the same thing too. Now who among those people would leave and who will stay is the shifting of balance in the industry you belong. Here’s an example: If 10 companies of a certain industry, has 10 unhappy employees, which decides to quit their job at the same time and just transfer to another.

Then the employee will apply to another company which the previous employee left. They will just rotate in one big cycle of transfer and hiring. It is a never ending quit and job application which applies as a job cycle in the same industry, with the same set of companies. Then after a few years you will see your previous employee applying for a job in the company that they leave before.

The point is, before you even tire yourself in the process, ask yourself if it is really necessary for you to quit. What are the 2 or 3 main reasons why you should quit? If you list it down, you will identify the reasons then ask yourself, is there a chance that I will encounter the same frustration in the company that I will apply to. Remember that there is no perfect company; there is always something to complain about a company.

How is the economy?

Another factor to consider is the economy, it is never better right? It is always the same and inflation keeps getting higher and higher. Why not use this to your advantage and start writing goals, and plan your finances for the next five years. Plans create Goals, which you can follow and reminds you of what you need to do from now until the next few years so will not get into debt and stay happy with your job.

There is always a time for everything and if you think that it is not the right time to quit your job, and then keep it. Maybe it’s time to be a minimalist, live in a tiny house, or even live a frugal life, but still you have a goal to follow so that you will succeed in the end.

Finally, if you really want to quit your job, you must line up a list of optional job or replacement income before deciding to leave your source of income. It is unwise to just leave a job and no plan of what to do next. Even worse, not even have an emergency fund to support your unemployment days. So make a financial check and write your plan right now.

Now to you.

Finding the reason to quit is easier than finding the reason to stay. In fact it is easier to quit a job than to find one.

Before even deciding to quit your job ask yourself the reasons why you should quit, list it down and read it over. Now write down the reasons what you like about your current job and compare it with the reasons why you hate it.

Now decide if you want to stay or leave. If you decide to stay, keep yourself motivated and plan your next step for the next 5 years. Create goals and make sure to achieve those goals.

What about you? How about sharing your thoughts in this article and write it in the comment below. We like to hear from you.

Why Do You Need To Start Investing To Yourself Today

Tuesday, April 5th, 2016

You always think of success but you forget the most important requirements, you must invest in yourself.

It can mean enhancing your talent or spending time learning new things related to your work. When you do this, you accomplished another leap in your career and personality.

But how do you invest in yourself? It takes a lot of time learning and teaching new stuff, but there’s no other way but to ask, read, and apply new things that you’re learning each day. Anything that excites you makes learning fun.

Off course time is also involve. The more you spend time learning new stuff, the more you loose on other matters. But think of the good effect in the long term. It will give you a better chance of achieving a major leap in your career and the reward can be more than you expected.

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1. Do you really need to learn new things?

Certainly! Every day is a learning day for you. Learn new things and explore new ideas. Ask yourself every time, what you can benefit from learning the skills that you see fit for you.

Or, you can master your current skills. Improve the parts that you think needs improving. This makes you more confident and helps you achieve a lot in life.

2. Can I just ask someone if I want to learn more, rather than doing it on my own?

It is better that you ask someone or look for a mentor. It lessens your time researching what you want to know and it gives you ideas that you don’t read on books or elsewhere.

You learn a lot from the experience of others, and this information is validated information, because it is tested and they already know what they’ll tell you to do and not to do.

3. How about books, does it still matter if I read it?

Read books as often as you can. Great people write books. And the advices you can read are timeless.

Now back it up with the actual input from your mentor then you have a recipe for success. The web is a good source of information. Spend at least an hour a day reading as much information every day, and most importantly apply what you have read.

4. What can I do to inspire myself if the time comes that I got bored?

Imagine yourself living a different life than what you have now. Imagine a better life, the one you dreamed about. It is achievable if you are willing to sweat it out and strive to achieve your goals.

If you want to inspire yourself every day cut out pictures of whatever your goal is. It can be a car, a new house, a vacation trip, etc. This help you visualize your goal and inspire you to push forward to achieve it.

5. But what if times really come that I feel depressed in achieving my goals?

Never think a single thought of negative vibes in your head. Only think of positive results, it makes your life better and your outlook in life more productive.

Positive thoughts radiates in your action and the way you communicate with others. The same with negativity, it is better to be positive in every aspect of your life than being negative.

6. In case I already achieve my goal, will I stop from investing on myself?

No. You never stop even if you are at the top. It must be an ongoing process.

You can always start learning different stuffs not related to your career. For example, if you are curious of being a painter, learn to be one. If you have an old film camera in your box, why not learn film photography.

Make your life interesting by learning plenty every day. Add spice to your life and enjoy it with your family.

The most important part of it all, don’t forget to put your feet on the ground. As you invest in yourself, you acquire knowledge at a fast pace, but don’t let the curse of knowledge creep in your mind and think that you are superior to others.

Learn to share what you know and share to the poor what you can give to them. This gives you purpose in your career and in your life.

Remember to invest in yourself always, because it is not only you who will benefit from it, also the people that surrounds you. Time is precious so spend it wisely.

The time that passed is already deducted to your age and cannot be redeemed. Now it’s up to you, what can you add to this article?

How To Achieve The True Key To Success

Tuesday, February 23rd, 2016

When you’re trying everything and you start feeling tired of life, you tend to ask yourself, am I successful? Chances are; you will say NO. It is never enough for you. You want to have more and more each day, and you tire yourself looking for success that seems so distant from you.

Success may differ from person to person, it maybe tangible success to others, but to some, a simple life with the people they love is enough to be called successful. Greed, Envy, and Selfishness clouds our mind with so much material things in life, and it becomes a bondage that is hard to remove from our system.

You need a balance life to be successful. You need to have a career that will provide you with the money to pay the bills and feed your family. You need have strength to overcome the failures that you will encounter along the way, as you journey to your life, whether single or married.

Also, you need to feed your spirit with the truth of what God has bestowed upon you in order to improve your spiritual life. You don’t need too much money, just enough to let you live one day at a time and keep you away from debt. You also don’t need too much money to extend your help to the less fortunate people; you can help in many different ways. It is your will that determines if you want to help or not.

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It is never always about the money

Wealth and fame is a wrong definition of success. Even if you have both in life but inside you feel empty, then it is never the wealth and fame that you are really after. The true missing portion in your life that you are always after is “Joy”. Try to ask yourself right now if you are happy. Imagine if you can still live the same lifestyle that you have until you are 55 years old, does it scare you to think about it?

Nobody will give you the same salary that you are earning right now when you retire. So, are you preparing to lose everything during your retirement?

How about the people that surrounds you? The true people that you love, whom you establish your life with. Sometimes they are the people you neglect to spend time with. Chasing after money wherein after earning, you spend with stuff that you think can make you happy (temporarily).

True success is measured in the quality of relationship we invest over our lifetime. Spending the money to the right people, with the right purpose, this is what matters most. Let me share to you the words spoken by a Dr Paul Kalinithi; a Neurosurgeon who dies at age 37.

“Most ambitions are either achieved or abandoned; either way, they belong to the past. The future, instead of the ladder toward the goals of life, flattens out into a perpetual present. Money, status, all the vanities the preacher of Ecclesiastes described, hold so little interest: a chasing after wind, indeed.”

The one that holds in the end is the relationship we build, specially with our family. Money and fame, they mean nothing in the end. Even if you pass it to your children, you’re no longer there to monitor them how they are spending it. What holds in the end is your faith and relationship.

Failing does not mean you need to stop; it is just the beginning of a fresh start.

Most successful people failed during their lifetime. They’ve reached the lowest point of their life and were miserable at some point. But they choose to stand up and face the reality of the failure that they’ve experience. They learn their lesson and decide that they try again but this time not committing the same mistake that they did when they first do it.

Learning through our failure is the key. Learning from other people’s failure is also beneficial for us. It makes decision making easier and less risky.

But maybe you miss something? Try to look back where and how you fail. There maybe opportunities for you to use for your advantage. It doesn’t mean that when you fail, you have to forget about it. Let it be a reference point for future decisions that you will make.

Failure can be your alarm before committing the mistake. When you are focused on your goal, you tend to miss the things that happen along the way. Sometimes you divert and get out of focused. If you didn’t notice it early, you will fail again.

But past failures can be triggers that will remind you that if you continue doing things that you are doing now, chances are you will fail. It helps you focus on your goal and succeed in the end.

You also need to be a cheerful giver.

A lot of people I know measure success base on what they get. What about what they give? It is God’s will that you prosper, but not for you alone. Your success has a purpose and it is not for you only. You give to a cause that matters to you. But don’t announce it. Whenever you donate or give to others, do not announce it. Remember these words:

“Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven. So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.” Matt 6:1-4

It is not how big you give, but what is important is how willingly you will give. Whatever it is that you willingly give will be measured unto you.

These are principles that you can apply to your life. It is for you to decide if you want to use it or not. Attaining wealth and all the splendor of our career means nothing, if you are bonded in sickness, misery, hopelessness, and without relationship to God.

The life we enjoyed living are the first 20 years of our life, all the rest are just monotonous and tiring. You will never find true rest, as Dr Paul Kalanithi says; it is a chasing after a wind.

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Learn To Push Out Of Your Comfort Zone

Tuesday, February 9th, 2016

When you are stuck in your comfort zone for too long, chances are, you’re not willing to try other options that maybe a better way of life. You miss out the opportunities that could have been your success if only you try it.

Imagine yourself in the end relishing that you could have done better if only you have the guts to move out of your comfort zone. Environment usually affects our decision and sometimes it is too late to realize that our opportunity has passed us by. Life begins outside of your comfort zone. You have to build the courage to try to step out of your comfort zone to achieve it. Here’s what were going to do.

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You must learn to accept challenges

We are programmed to stay inside our comfort zone. It is a better feeling for us to remain on what we usually do rather than try other things. We always put a protective barrier around ourselves, our career, and our family that sometimes prevents us from growing. We believe that what we have now is far better than what others are suggesting. It makes our life boring and monotonous that we became slave to our routines.

Setting goals can help us achieve our plans in life. It makes us visualize what we want to achieve. Whenever we set goals, we try our best to achieve it. Along the process, you force yourself to slowly set free from your comfort zone and try baby steps of challenges that you can overcome and succeed until you meet the goal you’ve set.

Believe in yourself; never think that you will fail. Always think that there is a way for every obstacle that you will face. Motivation is very important if you want to succeed. It pushes you to go further and find options along the way.

 

Have courage to try new things in life

Learn from your adventures. As seafarers, we frequently travel; this gives us advantage in learning different culture. You just didn’t pay attention to details of how other people or nationality live their lives and you are missing out the chances from learning from them.

Learn from other people’s wisdom by asking them and knowing more about them.
If you have a group or network of friends that you meet a lot, talk with them and learn from their experiences. This makes you mature, and builds your confidence in your future plans of trying other things.

Volunteerism is another way of building confidence. It helps you develop those baby steps you need, and prepares you on the bigger steps that you plan to take in the future.
Attend meetings and conferences; meet other people that you can share common interest. Exploring different horizons in your career makes you smarter and as you immerse yourself to your career and life, you realize the growth that can build confidence in whatever you want to try in your life.

Our desire to improve our life, better health, dreams to pursue, and creating more joy makes us decide to take the risk and move out of our comfort zone. Whatever would trigger the courage we need, it pushes us further and makes us stronger. If you can identify that trigger, nourish it and make it work with you so that you can move forward and start whatever it is that you’re planning to do.

 

You can have a better life outside your comfort zone

Staying in what you are now is not bad. But don’t you think that there are other chances that you can have a better life out of your comfort zone. You will never know it if you will not try it. Taking the chance is the only way that you will find out. If you don’t venture now, you will gain nothing. The experience and the success are like a closed box. If you don’t try to open it, you will never know what is inside.

Risk surrounds us every day, the only thing we can do is minimize the risk. Besides, the experience of trying other things in our life is enough reward, knowing that we can only achieve it if we try.

Strengths and weaknesses are developing as we feed ourselves with experiences that help us mature. We discover different options that applies in our lives and we realize that the experiences we endure speeds up our learning.

Fear is the common problem that makes us hesitant in moving out of our comfort zone. Identify those fears that you have and find solutions to minimize or completely remove it from your life. After all, we are created not to fear but to overcome fear.

Re-framing your fear helps you mitigate fear in your life. By creating a comfort zone in your life that slowly shines out of you helps you build courage and fight fear. Praying is a good start of building strength. Your faith can build a sanctuary in your life that resonates to your personality.

Every decision in life has risk, whether you are in your comfort zone of not. The only solution is never surrender or never give-up on the chance of making it better. Your comfort zone is holding you back, so you must learn to step out of it.

Challenge your comfort zone. Realize that you are capable of doing more if you step out of your comfort zone. Improve your communication skills, interact with others. This helps you learn more that what you have already learned so far. Fight fear and never hold back. Life is full of risk, you may already be in a risky situation right now, so it is better to manage risk rather than be a slave to it.

 

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