When you’re trying everything and you start feeling tired of life, you tend to ask yourself, am I successful? Chances are; you will say NO. It is never enough for you. You want to have more and more each day, and you tire yourself looking for success that seems so distant from you.
Success may differ from person to person, it maybe tangible success to others, but to some, a simple life with the people they love is enough to be called successful. Greed, Envy, and Selfishness clouds our mind with so much material things in life, and it becomes a bondage that is hard to remove from our system.
You need a balance life to be successful. You need to have a career that will provide you with the money to pay the bills and feed your family. You need have strength to overcome the failures that you will encounter along the way, as you journey to your life, whether single or married.
Also, you need to feed your spirit with the truth of what God has bestowed upon you in order to improve your spiritual life. You don’t need too much money, just enough to let you live one day at a time and keep you away from debt. You also don’t need too much money to extend your help to the less fortunate people; you can help in many different ways. It is your will that determines if you want to help or not.
It is never always about the money
Wealth and fame is a wrong definition of success. Even if you have both in life but inside you feel empty, then it is never the wealth and fame that you are really after. The true missing portion in your life that you are always after is “Joy”. Try to ask yourself right now if you are happy. Imagine if you can still live the same lifestyle that you have until you are 55 years old, does it scare you to think about it?
Nobody will give you the same salary that you are earning right now when you retire. So, are you preparing to lose everything during your retirement?
How about the people that surrounds you? The true people that you love, whom you establish your life with. Sometimes they are the people you neglect to spend time with. Chasing after money wherein after earning, you spend with stuff that you think can make you happy (temporarily).
True success is measured in the quality of relationship we invest over our lifetime. Spending the money to the right people, with the right purpose, this is what matters most. Let me share to you the words spoken by a Dr Paul Kalinithi; a Neurosurgeon who dies at age 37.
“Most ambitions are either achieved or abandoned; either way, they belong to the past. The future, instead of the ladder toward the goals of life, flattens out into a perpetual present. Money, status, all the vanities the preacher of Ecclesiastes described, hold so little interest: a chasing after wind, indeed.”
The one that holds in the end is the relationship we build, specially with our family. Money and fame, they mean nothing in the end. Even if you pass it to your children, you’re no longer there to monitor them how they are spending it. What holds in the end is your faith and relationship.
Failing does not mean you need to stop; it is just the beginning of a fresh start.
Most successful people failed during their lifetime. They’ve reached the lowest point of their life and were miserable at some point. But they choose to stand up and face the reality of the failure that they’ve experience. They learn their lesson and decide that they try again but this time not committing the same mistake that they did when they first do it.
Learning through our failure is the key. Learning from other people’s failure is also beneficial for us. It makes decision making easier and less risky.
But maybe you miss something? Try to look back where and how you fail. There maybe opportunities for you to use for your advantage. It doesn’t mean that when you fail, you have to forget about it. Let it be a reference point for future decisions that you will make.
Failure can be your alarm before committing the mistake. When you are focused on your goal, you tend to miss the things that happen along the way. Sometimes you divert and get out of focused. If you didn’t notice it early, you will fail again.
But past failures can be triggers that will remind you that if you continue doing things that you are doing now, chances are you will fail. It helps you focus on your goal and succeed in the end.
You also need to be a cheerful giver.
A lot of people I know measure success base on what they get. What about what they give? It is God’s will that you prosper, but not for you alone. Your success has a purpose and it is not for you only. You give to a cause that matters to you. But don’t announce it. Whenever you donate or give to others, do not announce it. Remember these words:
“Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven. So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.” Matt 6:1-4
It is not how big you give, but what is important is how willingly you will give. Whatever it is that you willingly give will be measured unto you.
These are principles that you can apply to your life. It is for you to decide if you want to use it or not. Attaining wealth and all the splendor of our career means nothing, if you are bonded in sickness, misery, hopelessness, and without relationship to God.
The life we enjoyed living are the first 20 years of our life, all the rest are just monotonous and tiring. You will never find true rest, as Dr Paul Kalanithi says; it is a chasing after a wind.
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